Text messages and phone calls. I don’t need to see my boomer relatives racist posts.
That was disappointing, when you grow up thinking your parents are progressive and then as old age and its symptoms happen their guards drop and you find out that they always had some racist tendencies. I guess credit to them suppressing them for so long.
In my parents’ old age they’ve gotten more progressive. I reject the notion that people naturally trend towards conservativism as they age… I just think there are a fuckton of entitled “I got mine” boomers.
I recently read an article that claims people become more progressive as they age, but society becomes more progressive faster, so it just seems like they become conservative.
I’d live to read this study if you can find it
It was just an article I saw while randomly browsing, I wouldn’t know where to look.
This certainly has the ring of truthiness to it.
Its not just “I got mine”, it’s " I got mine and I’m gonna wreck shit so you can’t get yours"
I am originally from the south but my mother joined the Air Force and we moved away after she divorced my dad when I was very young. I’m so glad that I was able to experience life outside of that racist bubble. I’m not sure how I would have turned out had I grown up there.
Same with me. It’s weird, during the end of the Mayan calendar my grandparents asked my dad to leave his wife and two kids to go into their bunker to prepare to fight off the minorities that all follow the Antichrist during the end times. The reason we were not invited to their crusade was my mom voted Democrat, and Jesus would not give souls to children who would live to see the end times as that would be to cruel for their god. He told them hell no. And it was weeks before they resurfaced again and pretended nothing ever happened. Could i have been conditioned thus if my dad don’t join the NAVY? Scary thought.
Probably racist as well.
Source: anonymous with an irrational hatred of the French, despite several generations removed from the French colonies.
We just didn’t see it in the past because we were all kinda racist. But we grew out of it.
FB got my sweet pre-school teacher who I never, in 30 years, saw be mean to anyone turned into a MAGA who hates people. The programming worked way too well.
This, but it was more surprising for other relatives, aunts and uncles mostly.
Like, Jesus Aunt Beth, I didn’t realize you religiously watched Glenn Beck and believe Muslims are trying to take over American by genetic conquest.
I’m the opposite. I don’t need to see my Gen Z relatives desperate pleas for attention.
My boomer relatives are relatively liberal and don’t feel the need to share more than the vacation they’re on, the cocktail they’re drinking, or their high score on candy crush.
Edit: I assume the downvotes are from butthurt Gen Zers. I don’t mean to generalize, I can’t imagine anyone doing that when discussing an entire generation, I’m simply offering my own personal experience. When my cousin is posting photos of himself in a banana hammock and my sister is posting daily cringe videos of her words of “advice”, AND IG keeps trying to show me this because the algorithm is trash, this keeps me off social media. Right, I should just not “follow” my relatives. Or, I could just stay away entirely. It’s fine.
This is the way.
There are also these crazy things called SMS and phone calls
I don’t. They have my phone number. They can text or call.
Same. I have no desire to be informed every time someone takes a shit, or does something AmaZIng!
Send me a text or call me. The family and friends I want to talk to will make an effort. The rest I don’t really need to know about.
Yeah we have one big group chat. And even that I have on mute. Some people glean energy from constantly seeing updates in other peoples lives. I’m the opposite, if you need something from me just call or text. It’s been 6 years or so since I deleted my Facebook and instagram. Don’t miss it at all
I don’t use social media to stay in contact with family; I use various messaging/call technologies.
I know where they live and have their phone number
SMS and telephone and IRL.
I haven’t used Facebook for over ten years. I was using Instagram for a while but the algorithm makes using it utterly pointless.
Do you really need to be on top of everyone all the time? Give your relationships room to breathe. Allow yourself to have engaging conversations with people to catch up and get to know them and the things that matter most to them. Allow yourself the liberty of not knowing the most ridiculous crap that they choose to share with the world.
Edit: Oh! I have a friend who I turned on to GroupMe a long time ago. He and his family still use it regularly. So, if you’re looking for something, give that a look.
A private Signal group for nobody besides us.
Yeah same here, we even have a bunch of different groups like a sort of venn diagram. Works perfectly well including meetups.
Yeah it took a while to get everyone onboard but signal has been the only messaging app that I use. Now even some of my friends and family use it for chats I’m not part of.
I donate $1/year per person I convinced to use it.
They’ve been informed that if they’d like me to know something, they’ll have to tell me. As it turns out, the phone works as a phone too!
Seriously, has everyone forgotten what a “phone” is? I mean I have trouble hearing and don’t like to hold long conversations on the phone, but it’s still one of the quickest ways to get in touch with someone.
Do you have experience with Auditory Processing Disorder? I say that because I started noticing symptoms in my early 30s when I developed tinnitus.
Hadn’t heard of that one and had to look it up… but no, my problem is that I had a loud car stereo when I was younger and blew out my hearing in the upper ranges. I can hear better in my right ear, but usually put the phone up to my left. When it’s quiet I can understand people just fine, but when there’s background noise it makes them a lot harder to understand. If I’m watching videos at my computer I can turn down the bass and turn up the treble, then I understand the dialog just fine, but everyone else in the house complains that it’s now too loud.
I’ve had over 30 years to adjust and I make do, but don’t try to talk to me at a concert. :-)
My phone number.
And christmas cards every year.
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Stay in contact with family? No thanks
Had to scroll too far down to find this. Amen.
Signal
Via my spouse.
Me too. And SMS since we are on mix of Android and Apple.
I don’t use any social media. I give my phone number to family members. They can call/text if they want to reach me.
You feel like you can’t disconnect from these things, but you can. Group text plus family learn quickly that you’re outside of social media. They learn to deliberately send photos or call and if your spouse is more social, they become the conduit for “news” and it’s filtered down to you when important
