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Cake day: June 5th, 2023

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  • They don’t owe you anything. Not sex, not a kiss, not a hug, not a second date, not even a smile. If the date goes well, you will get some or even all of those but if you try to force them, you will get nothing. Sure it can be disappointing if you put in a lot of effort and get nothing back but you will have to live with that. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible and sometimes a date just goes wrong because of a weird coincidence.

    Be nice, even if the date doesn’t go as you wanted. Open communication goes a long way and chances are that the person you’re talking to is just as insecure as you are. Explain (not accuse) why you don’t think this situation will work out. If you’re lucky, you can turn the conversation around. If not, at least you’re ending the date in a civil way. That also (and especially) applies to talking on online dating platforms. Sometimes you can tell just from a conversation that things won’t go anywhere. Way too many people just drop the conversation and move on which can feel pretty rude. Be nice, explain what’s up, give them a friendly goodbye and then move on.

    Those rules apply to both sides. You don’t owe them anything either, especially if they get rude. You should still try to be friendly in case there is a misunderstanding but try to get yourself out of an uncomfortable situation before it gets worse. Your safety is still priority number one.

    Edit: some more

    Don’t expect a relationship to last. Chances are it won’t. But this isn’t as pessimistic of a tip as you might expect. Even a single day of joy can be worth it if you manage your expectations. I’ve had a relationship crash and burn after seven years, I’ve had ones that lasted a couple of months and I’ve had someone ghost me after the second date. And still, all of them gave me amazing memories that I wouldn’t want to miss and they helped me grow as a person. Allow things to grow on their own and enjoy the process. Maybe you will marry that person. Maybe you’ll date them for a few months or years. Maybe you will never get past second base but stay platonic friends. Maybe you will spend the most amazing day of your life with them and then never see them again because you accidentally spilled something over their favorite t-shirt.


  • Sure. I use it as a structured place to keep notes on anything that may be important later, not specifically tasks:

    • Important people in my life (friends and family) with a short bio, where we met, favorite food, allergies, ideas what I could get them for their birthdays, links to their social media profiles, plans for shared vacations, maybe a few photos.
    • Recipes from all kinds of sources. If they are from a video or one of those “scroll past three pages of sentimental nonsense” sites, I summarize them and translate them into German with metric units.
    • Lists with interesting links about 3D printing, software development and so on. Keeping these in a wiki instead of just my browser’s bookmarks list allows me to better categorize them and add notes.
    • A list of open questions and project ideas that I can’t research right now like “Where is the best place to get custom printed LEGO minifigs?” and “Why do the zfs drives in my home server sometimes have problems waking up from sleep?”
    • Lists of interesting products/books/movies/… that I might buy/read/watch/… at some point
    • Some writing stuff: D&D campaigns, short stories, diary-like entries
    • A list of all computers in my household with hardware specs, operating system and so on

    All of those get put into categories and the categories are displayed on the main page via the categorytree plugin. The nice thing about having a wiki is that you have a lot of options for linking or embedding related content while still keeping it somewhat organized.






  • dfyx@lemmy.helios42.detoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlCanon 600D Flash error
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    16 days ago

    Asklemmy is not a support community, you might have more luck in photography related communities.

    That being said, you basically answered your own question. Your integrated flash is either stuck or blocked. Hard to tell without seeing it in person. You might try to help the camera by carefully pulling on the flash while holding the flash button (on the left side of the camera body). Maybe there is some dirt trapped in the hinge. If you can get it open (please, please, please don’t break the hinge), try carefully cleaning it.

    But here comes the kicker: the integrated flash on most cameras is absolute garbage and I’d recommend you just disable it. There is a reason why high end cameras don’t even have an integrated flash. An integrated flash is 20-30 times smaller than even the most basic external flash so it makes extremely hard shadows. (Edit: also, you can’t modify the flash brightness and the flash is so close to the camera body that you may see the shadow from your lens in your photos) If you can afford it, buy a cheap external flash (I’d recommend one from Yongnuo) and a mini softbox that you can put on the flash. It will make your photos A LOT better for not that much money.

    If you’re interested, I can dig out my old 760D and take some comparison shots between internal flash, external flash without softbox and external flash with softbox.



  • Honestly, this whole thing is a mess… first a countdown, then a website with basically no information and that’s only the start.

    More than 24 hours after signing up, I finally got an email with just about zero information:

    Hi @dfyx,

    We’re thrilled to welcome you to Loops.video!

    We’re in the process of onboarding all our new users, and we can’t wait for you to experience the magic of short looping video.

    Keep an eye out for another email from us later tonight or tomorrow (depending on when you signed up). It will have all the details you need to get started, including how to create your first Loop.

    Welcome to the Loops community!

    Regards, The Loops Team

    And from some random comment that dansup made on pixelfed I found out that this beta is only for Android. Apparently, iOS will come later and there is no info on a browser-based version. That info should have been on the website. Also, what about selfhosting? This is the fediverse after all…




    • Some places show me the same ads over and over, sometimes even back to back. No, Super Car Insurance 2000, I wasn’t interested the first time and I’m not interested the tenth time. I don’t even have a car and showing me your ad again won’t make me buy one just so I can get your insurance.
    • Telling me what I can save without telling me what it costs. Number 1 offender is Hello Fresh on German podcasts. Apparently I can save 150€ on my first three boxes… which makes me wonder in what world the regular price can still be a good deal. Groceries are expensive but sure as hell I don’t spend that much on dinner alone.




  • My parents split up when I was in my 20s. They both moved out of the house I had grown up in. My girlfriend and I stayed and rented it from my dad, planning to buy it from him as soon as we were financially stable enough to get a loan.

    Fast forward a few years to me having a well-paying job and my girlfriend almost being done with university. Things were looking really good. On my 30th birthday, my dad abd his new wife suddenly started pestering us about the house being too big, too expensive, too whatever for us to the point of ruining the whole evening. A week later I got a letter from him, telling me I had six months to get the money or get out, strongly suggesting the latter. Never even got a reason.