• Buglefingers@lemmy.world
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          6 months ago

          I do have a crazy ex, it’s an ongoing joke my friends talk about to this day. She tried to burn my apartment down because I had a birthday card from my sister. She peed in a solo cup and left it on my floor. She broke all the mirrors in my apartment because I didn’t tell her she was pretty that day. Oh, she also threatened me with a firearm because I didn’t chase her into the next room to make her feel better after an argument.

          I’d say those quantify her as pretty loose in the head. Her parents were great though, we even did stuff without her because they knew how difficult she could be.

          Not that you said people can’t have crazy ex’s, but for real, some people are just a tad unhinged. My other relationships were all fine and handled pretty well all in all.

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          6 months ago

          If you have one crazy ex, you have one crazy ex. If you have all crazy exes, you ARE the crazy ex. But if you have no crazy exes but a bunch of relationships that didn’t work out I’d want to make sure you aren’t their crazy ex.

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        6 months ago

        It’s a much bigger red flag if they hate everyone they’ve ever broken up with. That’s just childish. So your shit didn’t work out? Shake hands and walk along. They still have the good traits that made you consider them in the first place.

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          6 months ago

          It’s a much bigger red flag if they hate everyone they’ve ever broken up with.

          “And what’s the common thread here?”

          I find it very promising when someone I date, when they reflect on a past relationship, is willing to admit the mistakes they made which led to the breakup and highlight the positive steps they’ve taken to rectify those shortcomings to become a better person and not cause future partners the same hurt. Very sexy, that.

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            6 months ago

            Exactly. There’s a big difference between recognizing mistakes and projecting all failures on the other person.

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          6 months ago

          Yea sure, but you don’t have to be close to them and still be friends. Just move on