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It depends. It seems like Lemmy batches up its activity to send to remote instances - so, per instance, it sleeps for a bit, then sends what it has. If both a Create and an Update are in the same batch, Lemmy just sends the Update. If they don’t happen to be in the same batch though, it sends both activities.
(this is outsider observation, not insider knowledge)
Your instance rejects Follow requests from instances not on your ‘Allow list’, which is a pretty small list.
Edit: the list has since been expanded.