Pretty weird that you have to pay anything at all. In my country my boss would not be happy, but he cannot make me pay for that.

First I was like wow, then I started to count how many zero’s there came afterwards. Ouch that hurts.

Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.

That is actually pretty funny.

Abuse chances the way you think. It can be fixed. I’ve seen it happen. But you will have to take action, abusers tend to never change.

If you cannot do that, if you keep believing you can’t then you have given up. This is my last reply about this. I wish you the best and hope to hear from you in the future when you are in a better situation.

On the other hand, I am just a stranger on the Internet, so I have no real info about your situation. But I’ve seen hopeless situations like yours before, and I’ve seen them get resolved. So I hope you find a way. Because there always is.

Well, it’s only going to get worse. Go to a shelter. There are resources to help with debt, sometimes government programs.

If you stay you’re just digging the hole deeper. Every day you stay you are making it harder for yourself to leave. I know it is difficult.

You’re in a very very shitty situation. But out of all the choices you have available to you, staying is worst one you could possibly pick.

Do you have any friends or family that you can ask for help?

In the end it is your choice to stay or go. But make sure it is an actual choice and not just submitting because you don’t see a way out.

If you go to a shelter or the cops they might be able to at least explain to you what options you have. Perhaps there are numbers you could call for domestic abuse victims?

It is very important that you take action or things will only get worse. And I cannot imagine you want to struggle the rest of your life while he keeps draining you of all your money.

My gf had been in sort of a similar situation. You need to get out. At all costs. Even if you have to leave the dogs.

He will just do whatever he needs to do to keep you desperate and on his leash. So no matter what you do, he won’t met you save money, he won’t give you a chance to get away ever.

The controlling behavior servers to keep you there at his disposal.

He is not going to change. You will have too. So get of your ass and leave. It’s the only chance you have for a real life again. If you don’t, you basically submit and accept that this will be your life forever.

I know that things may seem hopeless, but the situation you are in is affecting the way you think. You can get away, you can have a normal life but you have to decide that it is over and commit to getting away.

Naked model? Cooking meth? Sex worker?

To the point where you hear a loud bang and some damage appears here or there.

Was lost on the airfield trying to pick up some friends. Borrowed a van, so it wasn’t my car, I was lost and I was tired.

Then I fucked up and made a U-turn without looking and hit another car on the side. Nobody got hurt, but there was some damage.

Exchanged information and we each went on our way. Learned a valuable lesson that day.

Their job is to represent their clients interest and make sure they get a fair trial. There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, it is one of the most important jobs for a justice system. I for one do not want to be charged for a crime I did not commit, and a good lawyer will turn that charge to shreds.

Of course they sometimes seem like the bad guys when defending rough criminals but those have the right to a correct and fair process too.

The benefit: you no longer have to pay staff or rent for that studio. Take the IP’s, what else of value is there really? The rest is just a burden.

Most of them are not bought to ensure their future or as an investment. They are bought to take the IP and eliminate a competitor or threat.

It’s sad, but that’s the problem with big companies with huge wallets. They’ll push people out of a job and won’t loose any sleep over it either.

At least that is what I think.

It’s a gift. If they don’t like it I hope they find a good destination for it. Maybe somebody else will be happy with it.

I give it away, and then I don’t really care anymore, unless the gift was expensive and specifically asked for.

I don’t waste my time by being offended about things that I have no control over. I’ve added my positive contribution to the situation, do with it what you want.

It could help with long term to define sub goals.

For example, about what amount of savings you want to have by which date, or set a date when you want to have a clear concise description of what kind of house and location you are looking for.

At another date you want to be familiar with all the things that involve buying a house, the documents and what not.

By defining sub goals you keep things real and are able to measure your position towards your goal.

It’s a valid strategy for dealing with complex and long term stuff.

Wrap it up folks, we’re done here.

A good employer would listen to your complaint. Then talk to the other guy. But he will not get fired over one incident.

It may get added to his personal file. If the list of complaints gets to big, some training may follow.

In my country it is very difficult to fire somebody for something like this. Only after repeated incidents, extra training and multiple chances to improve over a longer period of time would they stand a chance.

That does however require other people to report those incidents. So go ahead and report it because it clearly makes you very uncomfortable and it is very unprofessional from the other guy.

Not sure, but if the windshield shattered there’s probably damage to other parts too. If the bike had side farings those would probably crack too and need to be replaced. If not, the engine could have touched the ground, and replacing once of the sides of your engine isn’t cheap either.

The handlebars could be damaged, the forks could be out of whack. Everything needs to be checked to make sure it’s still safe to drive.

800 dollar may not be the damage that was there, but if you take into account the hours the mechanic has to spent checking and fixing the bike, the bill adds up quickly.

Source: dropped my bike. Around 1200 euro damage. That was not a fun experience.

I knew this one, but I enjoy it everytime. Because it’s true, we add way too much stuff we don’t need, and that page loads instantly and gets the point across. It’s perfect.

It’s actually a classic programmer move to start over again. I’ve read the book “Clean Code” and it talks about a little bit.

Appereantly it would not be the first time that the new start turns into the same mess as the old codebase it’s supposed to replace. While starting over can be tempting, refactoring is in my opinion better.

If you refactor a lot, you start thinking the same way about the new code you write. So any new code you write will probably be better and you’ll be cleaning up the old code too. If you know you have to clean up the mess anyways, better do it right the first time …

However it is not hard to imagine that some programming languages simply get too old and the application has to be rewritten in a new language to ensure continuity. So I think that happens sometimes.

I like those last three sentences. You managed to capture the infinite size of the universe and what it means. Bravo.

There’s so many distro’s to choose from that can all be productive.

If the question is this short, my answer is too: Go try at least 10 and then come back to tell us what you liked and what not.

Without any further information it’s like going into a forest and asking people to point out a tree. Unless you look for some specific tree all will do…

Edit: Fat fingers