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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I don’t doubt you a bit, but my brother in Christ, you think countless SysAdmins around the globe are doing that!? So maybe stop and think about what’s happening in your chair to cause that because there are millions of machines that (from what you’re saying) are put through much more strenuous use everyday that don’t require yearly reinstalls.



  • Just. Be. There.

    You’re a parent, so you know how this is going to work. By the seat of your pants. Medical and Psychiatric needs are beyond your control. I know you say that it’s a need but it’s simply not one you can provide other than it coming from you directly. It’s just not something you can unilaterally do. You can try and get in contact with counselors at their school, but that’s about it. So focus on what you can do and that is be there. Harvard released a study about 8 years ago that had the statement that every successful child had ONE invested, stable adult person in their life. Not parent, aunt, uncle, brother, sister, grandparent. Person.

    It sounds to me like you’re pretty dedicated to being that person. So I’d say the best thing you can do now is to just be you, and don’t stress about the things beyond your control. If you can continue to just be willing to invest this much effort you’ve shown already then you’ll be the best thing going for this child.










  • You don’t. You’re highly likely going to go through some big psychological changes as you age that will probably cause perspective shifts about just who you are and what you want. And that’s biological. You’re going to experience other things that aren’t biological products that cause perspective shifts. You at 18 and you at 35 should be two fairly different people.

    Hopefully you can find something that you continue to enjoy throughout life. If not it’s really not a big deal. Do what you have to, take opportunities given to you as they arise and you’ll probably end up somewhere you never expected. Work is work is work. Even if you love the field you can still hate work. It’s easier to make a change in career than to pigeonhole yourself into something that presents no way to diversify.