As a 6’2 man the clothes I find which are right for my height are often very loose on me. And if I worry about the waist I look like a kid who grew a lot in the past 2 months and everything is too short for me.
Its not entirely universal, some stores are better than others. And I wear a lot of loose casual t-shirts so thats fine too. But finding dress shirts means some places work, some don’t.
I am about the same height as my husband (5’9") and was about the same height as my ex too, but his ex was tiny, and I joke with him about it because his sons are shorter than him, tell him tall ladies make tall kids, he should have planned better!
So really I’m not even that tall, just taller than women’s regular clothes are. At least they make them now, Gap and Madewell are both serious about tall sizes, the rise on those fits well, the inseam too long for me but that’s an easier adjustment.
And yeah I feel bad for really short ladies too, if the petites are just shorter inseams that won’t work either!
Husband is a lucky guy. I guess your ex was hoping for mean reversion (there’s a more appropriate mathematical term that I just can’t think of as I write), with/for his children…
I had a best friend as a sixth former (17-18 yo) who was around your height; I lost my bf because the person I was engaged (then married) to didn’t like her. Subconsciously, I’ve probably always compared everyone to her and the grace and poise with which she presented herself. I’m old now.
Scandinavian girls seem to be a reasonable height. I haven’t spend enough time over there to know for certain that it’s really a thing; and I wasn’t that sad to want to look it up! Wonder if that would suit too? It’s not the 80s anymore though, sadly, and dressing is very different and difficult now.
5’9" is tall. Hope you get to work/wear it well! I want to say ‘congratulations’ … it doesn’t make any sense but congratulations anyway! You/he won the lottery.