Mine? As miserable as ever. My little bro wanted to go to a little comic con thing, is just not my vibe, felt surrounded by people in weird costumes is just… Thankfully I was there for like half an hour.

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    I assume you’re quite young, which is great! I’d suggest learning to enthusiastically jump into whatever activity you wind up in. It’s way more fun that way.

    At a comic con? Throw on a mask and start talking in a funny voice!

    At an opera? Listen closely to the sounds and try to enjoy the artisticness of the performance!

    In a big grassy field with nothing to do? Take your shoes off and let the grass tickle your feet!

    In my experience it’s easy to judge things as lame and to tell yourself that you’re too cool for that thing, but that winds up not being fun, and you wind up missing out on a lot of stuff that you actually would’ve enjoyed if you let yourself get into it. Learn to be open to trying new types of experiences and you’ll wind up having more fun in life!

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      I’m not like that unfortunately. I would NEVER wear a costume, hell, I wouldn’t ever went there to begin with

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        I used to be that way too, but it’s a skill that you learn through practice. Like push yourself to get into things just a teeny tiny bit to start with for now. Then after awhile it’ll be easy to get to that point of toe-dipping, so then you push yourself to go in a bit more next time, and do that every time you’re at some activity, and then eventually you’ll find it easy to jump right into the deep end of every activity. But it does take some effort to push yourself in the earlier stages

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          And that’s the problem, that just isn’t me. I’m like that for everyone and everything. I get that isn’t normal, but it is what it is. I just despise being forced to do social stuff, a cringe like situation like a comic con is probably even worse.

          Is like changing nature, you just can’t do that. That’s how rooted is this thing on me, I can’t change it.

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              It would probably make in existence less useless and maybe would had gave me a girlfriend in my lifetime, I dunno though. I know that isn’t me.

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                You honestly sound very depressed and like you really don’t know what you ARE. Try things, open mindedly, and you may find that some of these things are you, or can be fun regardless. Stop getting in your own way.

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                If you want to change this about yourself, then you can see a therapist to help you do it. You don’t have to be mentally ill to see a therapist, they can just help you make changes in yourself that you want to make. For something like this you would want to see a CBT therapist

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                So you don’t like comic cons (they have other things at those events besides manga and comics) but you know the language the NPCs speak in a video game?

                You should honestly fit right the fuck in at one of those. Honestly, the awkward self-pity already does. I meet so many people who are incredibly shy/awkward/what-have-you show up and it’s actually their first one, and they always end up having an absolute blast.

                You’re surrounded by like-minded people who are just there to nerd out and have fun with their community. And sometimes the costumes can actually be amazing.

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                I’m saying you’re a general intelligence. You have the kind of intelligence between your ears that the largest companies on the planet would gladly pay 100 billion dollars to be able to create.

                You can learn and change and grow. “I am this” or “I am not that”. This just isn’t how it works. We cut off parts and build new parts all the time.